Supportive Communication - Article
Communication is THE most important aspect of Human interaction
Communication has a direct impact on War - Peace - Religion - Ideologies - Politics - Relationship, and on all and everything.
Being that important, one could be tempted to think that is would be taken more seriously and taught more effectively.
We all learn to speak, but speaking is far from communicating purposely.
Interestingly, effective communication is much more used for it's negative aspect and power, such as persuasion, bullying, arguing, inducing pain, marketing and political ideas.
Communication is in direct relationship with Attitude. That is the reason why it is so powerful, and why it can be used to change the world.
By changing the way we communicate from negative power to positive, from argumentative to supportive, we change attitudes at the same time.
One can learn supportive positive communication - which will change your attitude to supportive and positive.
One can change ones attitude to supportive, and therefore will adopt supportive communication.
Why is everything on our beautiful planet so mixed up?
Why has it so many violent destructive elements?
Why are people, countries, religion, politics, ideologies working incredible hard to give each other hell, making each other wrong?
Because, a "Supportive Communication and Attitude" can be easily learnt, practice and spread out all over the world.
There is no need to make anyone wrong; .... actually there is no need make countries, parties, religion or ideologies wrong.
Quite the opposite, support them, that way, they don't have to prove themselves right.
That's what it all comes down too, everyone wants to be right .. which just doesn't work!
It should be clear by now, after centuries of struggle, there is no overall right, we all grow up differently, with different perspectives on life, which has nothing to do with right or wrong, it's just different.
By supporting that difference, by communicating supportively to that difference, instead of constantly arguing about something which never will work out to the good of all, we can live happily ever after :-)
Practice supportive communication - everywhere - politics included. ( esp politics :-)
Meaning, you support by listening and supporting another person in their endeavour
There is no need to make someone wrong in order for you to be right!
It is O.K. to agree with someone, as you are agreeing to what that person knows at this very moment.
In agreeing you give that person permission to express their views, which will help that person to listen to you, without defending their view.
This is called: "Supportive Communication ".
In using supportive communication you support that person to get their message across.
It is important not to use that devastating word BUT.
Using But means you negate everything that your communication partner has just told you, which will bring out defence and therefore attack.
Instead of BUT, simply use "AND". - Try it, it is magic!
State what you want, not what you don't want!
Concentrate on the positive and what to do.
Example - Positive:
Save and plant more tress. - Positive action - you are not accusing anyone.
Example - Negative:
Don't cut down trees. - You are accusing someone, who will now be defensive and fight back.
Please support your partner, by communicating your support.
If you communicate "point scoring", arguing all the time, you have no partnership.
It's like one person against the other, the result is always ZERO.
Supporting each other, equals at least as TWO, if you have synergy, even more...
Meaning: Your partnership results in a lifestyle which is greater than you ever could have achieved by yourself.
This is easily translated into countries supporting each other... etc.
Use the word COULD instead of SHOULD - Should implies guild.
Making someone feel guilty is not supportive communication.
Most of it coming from politicians, news media, social media, trying hard to prove themselves right and everyone else wrong, after all, all try to win, and politicians ... try to win an election.
Start within you partnership, support each other, it's sooo much more fun, creative and healthy.
© useNature.com.au: Australia - Healing Planet Earth and Humanity